Good Day World...it is definitely too hot to do anything except sit around and talk about how hot it really is!!! Ladies, you are looking good but some of the fellas are starting to complain about the vegetable garden some of you are starting to grow and show. We are starting to see mushrooms (fat falling over the beltline), cottage cheese (back of the thighs), and it seems you all are also growing flour seeing how ashy the feet and legs have been. Remedies are simple. Sit-ups for the mushrooms, lunges for the cottage cheese and St. Ives for the flour!!!!
Fellas, your best friend or even a close homeboy has a wife or wifey (almost wife but no ring) that is real cool. She gets along with everyone; she also has a reputation to being somewhat flirty. Some say she is real friendly. One day you bump into her at the grocery store and the both of you speak, as usual, but this conversation takes on a little twist. You tell her about your dating issues and she proceeds to tell you "how great of a guy you are" and that a woman "would be crazy to pass up a great-looking guy like you." She then touches your arm in a flirty type of way.
Now you dont want to believe it because this is your friend's wifey but you are pretty sure she just flirted with you.
Do you tell your homeboy that his girl is flirting with you?
On the flipside, do you believe your homeboy if he tells you that your girlfriend is flirting with him?
SPEAK OUT!!!
Monday, June 27, 2011
Monday, June 20, 2011
Father vs. Dad
Circa 1997...I came home from my freshman year of college and I was shooting the breeze with my Pops. I am thinking it was a Sunday and I just came home from some early morning bump (pickup basketball games); my Pops was probably on his third of four newspapers he reads on Sundays.
My Dad is a ferocious reader and pretty much one of the smartest men I know. He could sit and have a conversation with ANYBODY!! Doctor, lawyer, engineer, trash man, it did not matter, Pops could talk to you about anything on any level.
He put the paper down for a second and asked me how my first year of college. He asked about my coursework and of course my grades. Pops never really worried about me obtaining high marks in school, he was used to it from me so it was expected, like standard operating procedure. He then made a statement that kind of threw me off, he said "Integration was the worst thing to happen to education..."
I just sat there for a second with a puzzled face, really did not have a response but I am thinking in my head my parents went to great lengths to make sure my siblings and I had a diverse education. An education where we would interact with not just people who looked like us but people from all cultures. I was attending a majority white school in the middle of one of the most lopsided (cultural wise) cities in Virginia. Umm yea, and now you hit me with this!!!?????
He recognized the confusion on my face and further explained. He asked when was the last time you took a class about your culture? A couple of pages in your History book does not count! When have you ever taken a class just on our culture? I did not have an answer; I could not answer him because in all my years of education, up to that point, I never took a class about Black people. And at that very moment, I realized I knew very little about me, my family, my history, my CULTURE.
Pops, indirectly, pushed me to take this challenge head on and change. He made me realize that integration was an issue because it forced Black students to learn another culture, not their own. When you know about your culture, you have more pride about self; there is comfort in knowing where you came from and the realization of what you can really achieve. This is a huge part in what we call self-esteem. So that next semester in school, I made sure I enrolled myself in a Black Studies course and made it a point to explore who I was, where I came from, my family heritage and what it means to be me, to be Black.
My DAD did all of that in a 10 minute conversation. My Dad made sure, from birth, that I would become the best MAN I could be. He deplored lying, cheating and stealing and when I tried all three, he promptly beat me for it. He taught me to fight for myself when I would continuously get my a** kicked on the block. He pushed me on the basketball court and made every one of my games. He showed how to dress and conduct myself as a gentleman. Simply, he instilled in me to always try to become a better man everyday.
I cannot put a price, a theory, a statistical analysis on the importance of a Dad in a child's life, especially a young man. The effects a Dad has on a daughter is just as great if not greater.
What is the difference between a Father and a Dad? A Father donates the sperm, a Dad is all of the above and then some.
I want to personally thank all the DADS out there for being more than a Father and wish you all a Happy DADDYS Day!!!!!
Which one do you have, a Father or a Dad???
SPEAK OUT!!!
My Dad is a ferocious reader and pretty much one of the smartest men I know. He could sit and have a conversation with ANYBODY!! Doctor, lawyer, engineer, trash man, it did not matter, Pops could talk to you about anything on any level.
He put the paper down for a second and asked me how my first year of college. He asked about my coursework and of course my grades. Pops never really worried about me obtaining high marks in school, he was used to it from me so it was expected, like standard operating procedure. He then made a statement that kind of threw me off, he said "Integration was the worst thing to happen to education..."
I just sat there for a second with a puzzled face, really did not have a response but I am thinking in my head my parents went to great lengths to make sure my siblings and I had a diverse education. An education where we would interact with not just people who looked like us but people from all cultures. I was attending a majority white school in the middle of one of the most lopsided (cultural wise) cities in Virginia. Umm yea, and now you hit me with this!!!?????
He recognized the confusion on my face and further explained. He asked when was the last time you took a class about your culture? A couple of pages in your History book does not count! When have you ever taken a class just on our culture? I did not have an answer; I could not answer him because in all my years of education, up to that point, I never took a class about Black people. And at that very moment, I realized I knew very little about me, my family, my history, my CULTURE.
Pops, indirectly, pushed me to take this challenge head on and change. He made me realize that integration was an issue because it forced Black students to learn another culture, not their own. When you know about your culture, you have more pride about self; there is comfort in knowing where you came from and the realization of what you can really achieve. This is a huge part in what we call self-esteem. So that next semester in school, I made sure I enrolled myself in a Black Studies course and made it a point to explore who I was, where I came from, my family heritage and what it means to be me, to be Black.
My DAD did all of that in a 10 minute conversation. My Dad made sure, from birth, that I would become the best MAN I could be. He deplored lying, cheating and stealing and when I tried all three, he promptly beat me for it. He taught me to fight for myself when I would continuously get my a** kicked on the block. He pushed me on the basketball court and made every one of my games. He showed how to dress and conduct myself as a gentleman. Simply, he instilled in me to always try to become a better man everyday.
I cannot put a price, a theory, a statistical analysis on the importance of a Dad in a child's life, especially a young man. The effects a Dad has on a daughter is just as great if not greater.
What is the difference between a Father and a Dad? A Father donates the sperm, a Dad is all of the above and then some.
I want to personally thank all the DADS out there for being more than a Father and wish you all a Happy DADDYS Day!!!!!
Which one do you have, a Father or a Dad???
SPEAK OUT!!!
Monday, June 13, 2011
Is It Mine?
Hello Family,
Let's talk about something I have always wondered and hopefully will never get caught up in this sort of quandry. Here is the scenario:
Fred is having a baby, well not him, but his wife. Fred is ecstatic!!!! He cannot wait to be a Father and he adores his wife to death. A couple of days after the baby is born, all of Fred's friends came over to see his newborn son. They praised him and blessed their new addition. When his friends left the house, Ed came out and just said it, "that baby looks nothing like Fred!". The rest of the guys were relieved because they felt the same way.
Should his friends tell Fred to get a blood test? If so, how do you deliver this news?
SPEAK OUT!!!!
Let's talk about something I have always wondered and hopefully will never get caught up in this sort of quandry. Here is the scenario:
Fred is having a baby, well not him, but his wife. Fred is ecstatic!!!! He cannot wait to be a Father and he adores his wife to death. A couple of days after the baby is born, all of Fred's friends came over to see his newborn son. They praised him and blessed their new addition. When his friends left the house, Ed came out and just said it, "that baby looks nothing like Fred!". The rest of the guys were relieved because they felt the same way.
Should his friends tell Fred to get a blood test? If so, how do you deliver this news?
SPEAK OUT!!!!
Monday, June 6, 2011
Your Jumpoff, His Wifey
Good Morning World!!!! It is literally heating up outside and everyone is excited about the BBQs, Day Parties, Rooftop Parties, the Beach, boats, and my favorite, WOMEN!!!!!
I am going to dive into this week's topic, "Your Jumpoff, His Wifey." Here is the scenario:
Chris is in college and he is considered THE Ladies' Man on campus. It is not a secret that Chris has had many "conquests" while in school. Chris is married now and has lost touch with any woman he has ever had relations with in college.
At a BBQ, one of Chris' closest friends, Carlton, brings a date and according to Carlton, it is getting serious. Now Chris and Carlton did not go to college together. When Chris finally comes to realize that he knows Carlton's date from college and they had relations, he goes into panic mode.
What does Chris do in this situation? Does he tell Carlton, his homeboy, about the "past" or does he leave Carlton in the dark???
SPEAK OUT!!!!
I am going to dive into this week's topic, "Your Jumpoff, His Wifey." Here is the scenario:
Chris is in college and he is considered THE Ladies' Man on campus. It is not a secret that Chris has had many "conquests" while in school. Chris is married now and has lost touch with any woman he has ever had relations with in college.
At a BBQ, one of Chris' closest friends, Carlton, brings a date and according to Carlton, it is getting serious. Now Chris and Carlton did not go to college together. When Chris finally comes to realize that he knows Carlton's date from college and they had relations, he goes into panic mode.
What does Chris do in this situation? Does he tell Carlton, his homeboy, about the "past" or does he leave Carlton in the dark???
SPEAK OUT!!!!
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